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不正当的性行为

 

How to Report, 性侵后, 虐待关系的迹象, 预防性暴力, 有效的同意

How to Report

披露和报告的选项

披露和报告性行为不端的选择如下，可根据要求通过暴力预防教育和宣传提供援助，以帮助学生审查这些披露和报告的选择. 无论学生是否选择向学校或执法部门正式报告违规行为，都可以向他们提供大学支持服务.

大学的报告

大学社区成员的不当性行为应立即报告给路易斯安那州e世博esball大学第九条协调员，以便开始大学的调查过程.

Police Report

If the crime occurred on campus, contact Campus Police to file a police report. 如果犯罪发生在校外, contact the police department in the parish in which the crime occurred. 如果你有校外紧急情况，请拨打911.  

  • Campus Police

 

  • e世博esball大学警察局
    德雷克塞尔路4930号

机密信息披露

Disclosures made to the 预防暴力教育和宣传, 咨询与健康中心, 以下列出的学生健康诊所和校园部工作人员将严格保密，不会通知学校要求对所披露的行为进行审查. 

  • 预防暴力教育和宣传
  • 咨询与健康中心
    • (504) 504-520-7315
    • 202 St. 约瑟夫学术和健康资源中心
    • Open Monday-Thursday 9am-8pm and Friday 9am-5pm (Fall and Spring)
    • 开放时间:星期一至五上午9时至下午5时(夏季)
    • ch-ic.net/counselingservices
  • 学生健康服务
    • (504) 520-7396
    • 217 St. 约瑟夫学术和健康资源中心
    • 门诊时间:周一至周五上午8:30 -下午4:30开放
    • ch-ic.net/studenthealthcenter
  • 校园部办公室

性侵后

如果你被性侵犯, you are encouraged to seek medical attention and explore your reporting options. 预防暴力教育和宣传可以帮助你更多地了解可用的选择. 

首先，确保你不会受到额外的伤害. 如果你担心自己的安全, 拨打路易斯安那州e世博esball大学警察局，校内电话504-520-7490，校外电话911. 打电话给值得信赖的朋友或家人寻求支持.

Next, visit a local rape crisis center or emergency room. Seeking medical attention is critical since you may have injuries you cannot see. 性侵犯的受害者可以提出要求, at no cost, 无论受害者是否参与刑事司法系统或是否与执法部门合作起诉犯罪，都要进行法医检查. 

The closest hospital to Xavier University of Louisiana is University Medical Center. University Medical Center offers forensic exams for evidence collection. 他们还可以为你检查性传播疾病, 提供预防性传播疾病的药物和紧急避孕措施. 重要的是要在工作人员受过适当培训的医院寻求医疗服务，以便收集证据并为性侵犯幸存者提供护理. 如果你选择收集法医证据, 你就越早去医院, the more likely they will be to be able to collect reliable and useful evidence. You have 5 days from the time of an assault to get a forensic medical exam, 但最好在3天内服用，因为许多预防药物需要在3天内服用. Even if the 5 day window has passed, you should still seek medical attention. Even though you may want to, do not shower, douche, brush your teeth, smoke or eat. 如果可能的话，尽量不要上厕所. 如果你已经换了衣服, 把它们放在纸袋里(塑料会破坏证据)，然后带着它们去医院. 如果你没有换过衣服, keep the original clothes on and bring an extra outfit to wear home from the hospital, as they will collect the clothes you were wearing as part of the evidence. If a condom was used or there are other items that might have evidence on them, 比如床单, 把这些也带上.

Additionally, 路易斯安那州e世博esball大学的办公室为遭受性侵犯的学生提供支持和帮助. 咨询和健康中心, 预防暴力教育和宣传, 学生健康服务和校园部办公室都为遭受伤害的学生提供保密援助. 你不必为了寻求医疗救助或大学的支持服务而向警方正式报告事件. 

 

虐待关系的迹象

It’s not always easy to tell when a relationship starts if it will become abusive. 许多施虐者一开始似乎是很好的伴侣. Controlling, possessive and abusive behaviors usually don’t start immediately.  They tend to surface and intensify as the relationship grows. 虐待在每段关系中看起来都不一样. 施虐者可能会使用下面列出的任何一种策略组合来获得对受害者的权力和控制.

虐待关系的一些迹象包括:

Physical Abuse

  • Pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you
  • 抓住你，摇晃你的胳膊或肩膀
  • 不让你离开
  • 不让你吃饭或睡觉
  • 用武器威胁你
  • Not letting you call the police or seek medical attention
  • 伤害你的孩子
  • 把你抛弃在陌生的地方
  • 当你在车里时，不顾后果地开车
  • 让你吸毒或酗酒
  • 虐待你的宠物

情感虐待

  • Calling you names, insulting you or constantly criticizing you
  • 让你在众人面前丢脸
  • Accusing you of cheating or being interested in someone else
  • 欺骗你，把他们的行为归咎于你
  • Threatening to cheat on you if you don’t do what they want
  • 拒绝相信你
  • 表现出嫉妒或占有欲
  • 试图将你与家人或朋友隔离开来
  • Monitoring where you go, who you hang out with or who you text/call
  • 总是要求知道你在哪里
  • 克制感情是为了惩罚你
  • Making threats of violence toward you, your family, children or pets
  • 破坏你的财产(投掷物品), 打墙, 踢门, 裁剪你的衣服, etc.)
  • Controlling what you wear, how much makeup you wear, how you style your hair, etc.
  • 把他们的虐待倾向归咎于你
  • 告诉你，你再也找不到更好的人了，或者你很幸运能和他们在一起

Sexual Abuse

  • 强迫你发生性行为或进行性行为
  • 做爱时把你按住
  • 用性的方式侮辱你
  • 在你没心情的时候要求做爱
  • 在做爱时用武器或其他东西伤害你
  • Involving other people in sexual activities with you against your will
  • 忽略你对性的感受
  • 强迫你看色情片
  • Intentionally trying to give you a sexually transmitted disease

金融滥用

  • Preventing you from working or limiting the hours you can work
  • Making you work and then taking your paycheck and not giving you access to the money
  • 当你不同意支持他们的时候，让你为他们支付账单，给他们买东西
  • 给你零用钱, closely watching what you spend money on and demanding receipts for purchases made
  • Preventing you from viewing or having access to bank accounts
  • 未经允许以你的名义刷爆信用卡，或者不支付他们累积的信用卡账单
  • 从你、你的家人或朋友那里偷钱
  • Using funds from your children’s savings accounts without your permission
  • Living in your house but refusing to work or contribute

Digital Abuse

  • Deciding who you are allowed to be friends with on social media
  • Using social media sites to keep track of where you are
  • Sending you unwanted explicit pictures and demanding you send some in return
  • Posting negative comments about you on their social media sites
  • Making you give them your social media passwords so they can monitor your sites
  • Making you give them the password to your phone so they can read your text messages, 看看你给谁打过电话，访问过哪些网站
  • Using GPS or any form of tracking device to monitor where you are
  • 不停地给你发短信或打电话，让你觉得你不能离开你的手机，因为你害怕受到惩罚

预防性暴力

Most people grow up learning prevention tips to help them avoid sexual assault. 尤其是女性被教导不要独自行走, 告诉朋友他们要去哪里约会, watch their drink to make sure no one puts drugs in it, 走到车上时手里拿着钥匙，出门时使用结伴制.

美国社会充斥着人们如何保护自己免受性侵犯的信息. Rarely do we hear about ways that we can avoid being a sexual perpetrator. 阅读下面列出的预防和降低风险的策略，了解如何保证你和你的伴侣的安全.  

Prevention:

  • Communicate your boundaries and expectations to your partner in advance.
  • 在进行性行为前征求同意.
  • 当你的伴侣说不的时候，尊重他们的底线.
  • Pick up on physical ques when your partner looks uncomfortable, pulls away or isn’t an equal participant in sexual activity.
  • Do not pressure your partner into a sexual activity that makes them uncomfortable.
  • 不要在身体上压制你的伴侣.
  • 不要为约会设定不切实际的期望.  例如，为约会对象的晚餐买单并不意味着你有权得到性回报.
  • Consider how alcohol and other drugs impair your decision making abilities. 这些物质会影响你的判断，让你很难从伴侣那里听到“不”.
  • 不要鼓励你的约会对象过量饮酒或给他们提供其他会影响他们判断的药物.  If your partner is incapacitated, they cannot give legal consent to sexual activity.
  • 注意你周围发生的事情. If you see a situation that looks problematic, do something about it.
  • 促进防止暴力的社会规范.

降低风险:

Regardless of how many risk reduction strategies you do or do not use, a survivor is never responsible for being sexually assaulted. Nothing a person says, does or wears makes them deserve to be victimized.  

  • 提前考虑你的极限，特别是在酒精或其他药物影响之前. If someone is crossing your boundaries, tell them to stop.
  • 学会如何沟通你的极限，这样当你想说“不”的时候，你就会很舒服.
  • 要注意那些在你坚持自己的底线之后还在不断挑战你底线的人. 作恶者故意试图突破你的界限，看看他们能逃脱什么惩罚.
  • Trust your gut. 如果你感到不舒服，听从你的直觉.
  • 如果你在网上认识某人或者不太了解他们, do not allow them to pick you up for a date or know where you live.
  • 如果你刚刚遇到一个人, meet for dates in public for a while before going to a more intimate location.
  • 在进入一段关系或亲密关系之前，花点时间去了解一个人，了解他们到底是谁.  
  • Tell your friends when and where you are going on a date. 如果你是在网上认识的, 给你的朋友提供一张约会对象的照片，让他们晚上打电话或发短信问候你，确保你安全到家.
  • 总是要有一个回家的备用计划，以防事情不像你期望的那样发展. 随身携带额外的现金/信用卡，并在手机上下载一个交通应用程序，这样你就可以轻松地叫车了.
  • 当你出去的时候，和你的朋友呆在一起. 不要独自外出，也不要脱离你的朋友圈，和你不太熟悉的人一起去.
  • If someone offers to walk or drive you home, make sure you know that person well. Oftentimes, 作恶者把这作为孤立你的一种方式，让你处于他们可以利用你的境地.
  • 不接受别人的饮料或药物. 一些非处方药, 当与酒精混合时, 约会强奸药会有类似的效果吗.
  • Remember you do not owe anyone your time, attention or body. 你有权利在任何时候说不, even if you have already started engaging in sexual activity.

有效的同意

有效的同意是知情的, 主动的，主动的:通过双方都能理解的言语或行为自由而积极地给予，表示愿意参与双方都同意的性活动. 换句话说，就是在同样的时间，用同样的方式，和彼此做同样的事情.

 

  • 预防暴力教育和宣传
  • 107 St. 约瑟夫学术 & 卫生资源中心邮箱320.
    New Orleans
    Louisiana
    70125
  • 504-520-7503